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My Blessed Life

Jackson and I built a giant Christmas card this year using scraps of old magazines, Christmas cards and flyers. We sliced it up and gave each of our favourite families a colourful piece. One lucky card had a special picture on it (a man with a moustache holding a glass of beer) worth $100. I blindly stuffed the envelopes so I'm excited to find out this year's winner. (Last year this event was tested on  the Benwell side and I think most of the winnings went to Leukemia Research in honour of Mom. This year Peacocks and friends were added and the winners can do as they choose with the gift!)

The winners of the 2nd annual Benwell Peacock Christmas Lottery are Auntie Colleen and Uncle Frank! (Auntie Colleen is Tara's mom's baby sister. ) Congratulations!

P.S. Don't worry! This is not our only Christmas tree!

GRATITUDE

As a stay-at-home working mom with a dream of becoming a novelist, I'm more aware each day of the importance of self-care. Taking time to look after my own needs is a new challenge that I experiment with on a daily basis. Prayer, books, blogs, tapes, and journaling are just a few of the tools I use to practice self-care in my own life.   

I recently came across this quote from Sara Ban Breathnach.( I may be the last woman in the world to be dabbling into Simple Abundance, but I don't think it's ever too late.)

The more you have and are grateful for, the more will be given you.

This page will be dedicated to all of the people, moments, and places that I am thankful for.

 

 

Places

I have to admit that I enjoy our neighbour's Christmas lights more than our own. From this window by the couch, I have the perfect view of them and they are so gorgeous. I probably enjoy them more than they do too, because it is difficult to admire your own lights unless you leave the house at night. For the past few evenings I have enjoyed their Christmas lights next to this gorgeous fake firelog on our HDTV.

I'm so thankful for Jackson's magical purple bedroom and all of the imaginary places we go when we're in there. Tonight we built "Ponyville". The great thing about kids is that nothing has to be perfect when they pretend. We used a wooden blocks box for the gazebo, and covered up her plastic oven with a flowery receiving blanket to make a mountain. On top of the moutain we sat a piece of cardboard from one of her pony boxes that had a picture of the real "Ponyville". Under the table was the garage for all of the cars--Jaks' second passion right now. She's been in bed for an hour now, but I still hear her playing in Ponyville.  I wonder what will change in that bedroom once her brother moves in.

The change table is one of my favourite places to be these days and I'm so thankful for the sanity it brings me.This is where baby Joey is in his own little baby heaven. He lies under the teddy bear mobile that cousin Leah bought for Jaks (she loved it too) and just stares up at it as though it were the best invention there ever was. He loves it when I spin the bears and sing the song, (sing to Frere Jaques)"Round the bears go, round the bears go...around the sun..around the sun...round and round the bears go, round and round the bears go... now they're done, now they're done. 

Tonight I'm thankful for the shady green meadow just outside of the library. It is a meadow to me, despite running along the busiest street in town. The trees are as old as the books inside, and Jaks and I have enjoyed reading and cuddling under them for over two years now. A shared story is that much more special under the shade of a giant tree. I have to add here that on a cold day this winter when we drove to the library and practically ran to the car to get out of the wind, Jaks suggested we sit under the trees for a story. Unfortunately we had baby brother with us, who wasn't appropriately dressed for such spontaneity. 

We've discovered a new beach in town, and I'm so thankful that most other Pentictonites have not! I'm calling it Ellis beach because it's at the end of Ellis street and has a plaque on it discussing a Mr. Ellis who once lived in the area. It's just a few blocks away from the busiest spots in town, yet we've only seen two or three other families there each time we've been. There's no public washrooms yet, but I suppose that would bring the public.  

This week I'm thankful for the blue church. On Sunday people of all ages told stories to inspire the high school grads in the congregation. One man told of how he was dug out of the rubble as a baby after a bomb landed on his house. A woman who suffered from a stroke described the process of learning to speak, read, and write again, and how all she wants to do is to be able to work. A retired woman stood up and talked about how her life is busier and more wonderful than ever. I held back the tears a number of times, and thanked God for leading me into this inspiring place.

Today I'm thankful for our twin thrift shops that sit side by side on Main St in Penticton. This is where we buy children's books for ten cents, including classics like Judy Blume's Are you There God it's me Margaret, for future reading. We also get fifty cent puzzles, two dollar hoodies, and ten cent wine glasses. Did I mention our four dollar coffee table?

My newly decorated sunroom with  its fake palm tree and all of its red accents. Now that the good weather is here we spend more time reading, sipping coffee, and chatting in here than anywhere else. It's also a cozy spot to work at night on my new laptop.

Our garden is blooming again. I'm thankful for Gramma and Kelly for helping me get our garden started last year, when I couldn't tell the difference between a weed and a strawberry. They shared their plants, time, and gardening tips, and everytime I'm playing in there I think of how blessed I am to have found such a wonderful sister and mother-in-law. 

I'm thankful for our limegreen kitchen with our new spray-painted black dishwasher that we rescued from the back lane. With Jackson's multicoloured magnetic letters and numbers, on its front, I could easily see our free dishwasher in a magazine centerfold. And, oh how pleasant it is to wake up to tidy counters without that horrid dishrack.

Jaks and I are blessed to have discovered Picnic Park. We named it ourselves, but it's the perfect spot to spread out blankies, blow bubbles, read books, and pig out. Last week I thought we'd try somewhere different to picnic, but when we got there Jaks said she wanted to go to "the right place." Picnic Park has the greenest grass and the most polite birds in all of Pentiction.

Thank God for San Jose del Cabo, where we enjoyed our first family vacation. I can't help but arrange pictures of the surf, sand, and sunshine all over our home, so we can dream of returning one day soon.

 

People

Tonight I am thankful for Gramma Blankie who sent my favourite Christmas snack up to Penticton for us. This is the only thing besides ice cream that has tasted good to me since we all got this nasty stomach flu. As I sat munching and working tonight, I couldn't help but feel that Christmas is here. Did I mention that she also sent Dean's favourite cheeseball on the Greyhound? (with those little cute spreading knives that she knew we wouldn't have)

Miss Heather, Jackson's preschool teacher, made a house call today to drop off treats and gifts.( We missed the Christmas concert because of a nasty stomach bug.) This act of kindness is something that will stay with me forever. Aren't we the ones who are supposed to be bringing gifts to the teacher? 

I'm thankful for Kris and Carolyn and everything they have done so far to help me with my novel!

Dean and I are thankful for the kind lady at the skating rink who helped Jackson take her first few strides at the family Christmas party.

I'm thankful for the group of babytalk moms I met this year. We have been meeting every Thursday for about a year now. A few of my "mom" friends from my first round of "babytalk" moved away from Penticton, and these new pals couldn't have come along at a better time. I'm also thankful for all of the babies as well. Joey is such a lucky little boy to have so many special playmates.

It has almost been four months since Joey was born and I haven't expressed my gratitude for having a son. Today, I told Dean how much I love having a boy. I guess, deep down, I was a little worried that I wouldn't be cut out to mother a son in the same natural way that I am with our daughter. But, boys are fun too. Even four month old boys. I'm thankful today that God has blessed me with one of each.

Today I'm especially thankful for my sister-in-law who always makes me feel loved and important across so many miles. Though most of our chats are over the phone I hang up feeling as though I have just waved her goodbye from my window.

I'm grateful for Andrea this week and always. She has sacrificed her holidays to come and look after our precious Jaks while I am in the hospital. Does she know what she's gotten herself into?  

I'm thankful for Dean. A man who gets me. Who gets fatherhood. Who gets Sundays.

I thank God for Jaks. The daughter I always knew deep down I would be blessed with. Motherhood is the one thing I honestly remember to thank God for almost every day.

I'm grateful for Trevor. The wittiest child in the land.  Without this energetic boy I may have never fallen for his crazy father. And I would have never "gotten" Pokemon. When he's with us, life is more complete.

I thank God for my family. For Dean's family. For the normal and the silliness in all of them.

I thank God for my childhood girlfriends, especially the ones who are still in my life today.

I'm thankful for the people who employ me. These people have never even met me, yet they trust me and my writing. They put food in my belly and a pillow under my head. God put each in my path after careful centered prayers.

These days I'm always thankful for writer and lifestyle coach, Jennifer Louden. I've never met her, but her books, blog, and podcast give me the boost I need to live authentically day by day. I've been introduced to several other inspiring writers via her links and references.

Moments and Memories

Seeing Tammy running towards me with baby Rayne attached and little Caiden at her side. That was when it really hit me that I was finally getting to meet my nephew. I'll never forget sharing an apple with Caiden as he walked all the way from Granville Island to Andrea's on his little tiger legs. I'm so thankful for the whole trip and all of the angels that were watching over us during our visit. The Slippery Fish. The Bunnies Hopping. The Hungry Hippos. These memories will carry me until May.

Dad and I enjoyed an awesome chat over a few cold beers on his last night of our November visit. He inspired me to write a lesson on Race Car drivers for the online children's series I'm working on. I'm so thankful that he was awake when I was done work!

I'll always remember Uncle Ron fixing the kids and I peanut butter sandwiches and ice cream while we waited for Dad and Auntie Do to finish his visit with Grandma Grace. The kids were so excited to see toys and a living room after a week away from home.

Joey rolled over today. It's New Year's Eve, so I guess he wanted to do his first trick in his birth year, 2006. When Jaks rolled over for the first time I had to run out into the street to tell someone because Daddy was at work. Today, Dean and I were both in the living room hanging out when he did it. Joey was so impressed with his own new skill that he did it again a few minutes later.

Trevor has gotten to the age where he wants money for Christmas. Dean found this great cube where you hide the money inside and have to roll a marble through a maze to get it out. The only problem was there was a fake dollar bill in it, so he had to do the puzzle himself first. He figured it out just in time to get to work. I loved watching him struggle and giggle like a little boy. It took me back to the year when the Rubics cube came out. My mom was so determined to get it.

Jaks sat at the kitchen table for half an hour last night writing notes to or about her Daddy. As I listened excitedly to her fabulous stories and obvious adoration for Dean, I couldn't help but think that I should encourage this mini writing retreat as an evening event. Could I possibly write a few of my own words?

I was thankful that Jaks let me veg on her bed for an hour this morning while she entertained me with her play rather than begging for breakfast service. During the Carebears picnic she picked up a toy plastic flipper and said very clearly and with a squinty face, "Hmm. What's this called?"

I'm so thankful for the tea towel and washcloth that Auntie Dorrie knitted for me with wool that Mom had been collecting for a mysterious project in her knitting bag.Auntie D made a set for Corey and Karen too. Through the kindness of others on earth, yet from the comforts of heaven, Mom is still stringing us together.

After driving all the way to Kelowna just to find Corduroy, my favourite storybook as a child, I was so thankful that the bookstore lady was able to locate it even though I'm sure it wasn't there the first time I checked. Now, with Jaks wanting to read it over and over, and at a much younger age than I was, I'm convinced that that story is truly special.

This morning Dean got up at 6:00 AM to rescue Jaks from her nightmare, while I rolled over into my sweet slumber. Thank God I've found a man who takes his turn.

Today I'm thankful that Dean gave up golf to look after Jaks while my neck is in this awful kink. And that he was here to fix me a hot water bottle and bring me drugs.

I'm thankful for the moment Jaks and I spent making her first ever cup of freshly squeezed lemonade, and for the face she made after she tasted it.

Watching Jackson tell a story about the Giant Otters with a big bucket over her head when she was supposed to be napping made my day.